Graham Turner

There are many coaches out there telling you that they can get you to live a fantastic life. They can fix you and if you do what they tell you everything that you’ve ever wanted you will have.

And that might be the case, you just know there’s a however coming and yes there is. I fell for the stories hook line and sinker and all that happened was I spent more money and felt I was more broken and needed to be fixed.

Let’s take you back to the beginning. I married quite early in life and was a faithful obedient hard-working conscientious and loving father. Everything society expected me to be, so much so that I quickly started to lose my own identity. Martial arts that I loved stopped, the friends that I once had were lost and my own personal time was taking up with everyone else.

To be honest we were both living unfulfilled lives, neither happy nor communicating the reality of what was going on.  I don’t think we noticed it at first but then, we started to resent life and each other, being angry at situations and circumstances. Until one day 10 years into a marriage, I packed two black bin bags, walked downstairs, sat down, and had the painful conversation with my wife that I was leaving.

That conversation was the hardest, most painful conversation I had. It signified “I was a Failure” “I was incapable of being a man” and now lost with no identity, no home, or money in a personal bank account, very little to my name in fact.

I ended up going to my parents’ house, where I was greeted with suspicion, with anger with no emotional support or sympathy. I was already feeling a failure and responsible for the breakdown of my marriage and manhood. My parents backed up these thoughts as often as they could.

In short, I was mentally, physically, and financially broken, I felt there was no support, guidance, or help whatsoever. To me, my parents, the legal system, and ex all wanted to make me pay in whatever where they could.

It took years and another long relationship before I stopped looking to be fixed, I stopped looking to be someone else for other people. I stopped trying to get other people to love and like me and started working on liking and loving myself.

I started putting myself first, looking after my mental and physical body, making myself the priority, losing over 12 kilos of fat along the way, investing in my emotional well-being, and having the ability to look at myself in the mirror and saying I love myself on a daily basis.

I’ve learned a lot along the way not only from my journey and experiences, from the qualifications and training I have undertaken, the help, support, and guidance have given to others both professionally and personally. The wonderful relationships I have created and forged even broken ones with friends and family.

I want this for you… No matter how broken and isolated you may feel, have physically and emotionally you feel drained or empty. I want you to feel vital, healthy, and whole brimming with confidence and the ability to take on the world.

This was who i was and this below is my decloration to you and the world now of who i am BEing and showing up in the world.

I am unconditional love for myself and all others. 

I am courageous.

I am physically, emotionally and spiritual strength. 

I am a creative force flowing with the energy of the universe.

I am trusting, supportive and compassionate. 

I am  honesty, the integrity of my word. 

I am non judgemental and accepting to all.

I am the wisdom of my past and the knowledge of my future. 

I am uncompromising in my search for universal love and to the service of humanity.

I am enough.

I Am.